Is anxiety ruining your life? Are your days and nights full of worry? If so, you are in the right place!
Is this you…?
- Unable to focus on routine tasks.
- Stressed out.
- Preoccupied and unsettled.
- Worried about being worried.
- Losing sleep.
- Overwhelmed.
Would you love to be able to…
- Calm down and relax.
- Think clearly.
- Feel in control.
- Stop worrying.
If this is you, you are not alone.
My Anxiety Story
There was a time when I was a bundle of anxiety, too.
About 13 years ago, I was a mess. I was smack dab in the middle of an emotional nightmare. I wasn’t sleeping. I was obsessed with scary, unsettling thoughts. And lots of what ifs.
I just couldn’t help myself. Visits to my doctor increased. Xanax helped, but still, it seemed like the nightmare would never end.
Finally, I declared, “I don’t want to live like this anymore!” I got help. I made a 180-degree shift. I learned how to manage anxiety and worry.
I stopped the anxious thoughts. I was able to sleep better. I calmed down and gained control over my life. I became anxiety-free.
Then, I became a certified anxiety coach and now, I help other women become anxiety-free!
Do You Want to Manage Anxiety Too?
If you’ve been feeling anxious, fearsome, and restless, follow these 3 steps.
Identify the Fears Causing Your Anxiety
Reflect on the fears underneath your worry. Be curious. Pay attention to ideas that surface. Think about this while you’re taking a walk or vacuuming the carpet.
Take note of any worst-case scenarios that pop up. Observe what your inner critic is telling you.
Being intentional about naming your fears provides an awareness that is vital to getting rid of anxiety. When you have identified your fears, it’s possible to do something about them.
I had a client who was overwhelmed with anxiety about her relationship with her daughters. She was angry! After discovering the fears causing her anxiety and anger, she calmed down and was able to focus rationally on the situation with her daughters. This happened all because she took the time to reflect on her underlying fears.
Change Negative Thoughts to Positive Thoughts
Fears produce negative thoughts. The fears you identify are the root of the anxious, troubling, out-of-control thinking that’s overwhelming you. So, what can you do about this?
The answer: Think new thoughts… positive, affirming thoughts. Being intentional about shifting negative thoughts to positive thoughts makes a big difference in what you believe about a situation that’s upsetting you. It’s not just putting a positive spin on an experience. It’s opening yourself up to new possibilities. You feel better about yourself and have more energy to manage life.
How does this radical change happen? The idea is to catch negative thoughts when they show up. Stop and think about what’s going on in your mind. If your thoughts are pulling you down and causing worry, change them. Use affirming, upbeat words to begin a positive, uplifting pattern of thinking.
One of my clients experienced great anxiety about managing her employees. She learned how to rephrase the negative statements she was telling herself. Repeating positive, encouraging statements to herself worked wonders. She was able to approach employee conversations with confidence and a clear mind – not one cluttered with worry.
Develop a Plan for Anxiety-Free Living
Practice, practice, practice! Every day!
Practice shifting negative thoughts to new positive thoughts by…
- Catching negative thoughts more and more over time.
- Being patient and kind with yourself while you learn this process of building awareness about your thoughts.
- Recognizing that you are creating a new pattern of thinking.
- Noticing how it feels to manage your thought life in a healthy way.
Develop a plan for quieting yourself to observe how your new thinking habit is working. Reflect daily. You will begin to experience less overwhelm and worry.
Write affirmations and say them to yourself several times a day. Use positive, inspiring words. A client told me that repeating affirmations to herself was the most helpful thing.
Remember, you don’t have to believe everything your mind tells you!
If you are truly struggling with anxiety, watch my FREE 10-minute video (click here) to learn more about the EXACT 3 steps you can take to become anxiety-free.
Let’s Reflect:
What keeps you up at night? Do you feel anxious most of the time? To date, what have you tried to calm your anxiety?