When I finished my book Grey Hair & You, I came to the realisation that the greatest prejudice against grey hair in women comes from women themselves.
There is an incredible number of women who believe they look younger with dark hair. I have yet to figure out why that is. In reality, dying your hair can be too harsh once you’re past a certain age.
These same women believe, along with many of their sisters, that grey hair makes them look older. This is true for some women because they fail to consider the two most important factors in dealing with the challenge of grey hair.
There are just two considerations – yes, only two.
Your One Shade of Grey Hair
White-looking hair is fabulous; scaffold-grey is not. Simple, really.
Of course, white hair isn’t white; it’s clear in colour. The difference between the white and the grey hair is caused by the pigments eumelanin (dark) and pheomelanin (light).
More often than not, you will find both eumelanin and pheomelanin in hair. In grey hair, though, that’s largely unlikely as eumelanin is the more common.
The range of colours produced by melanin is limited to shades of yellow, brown, red and black. Grey hairs contain only a few melanin granules spread throughout the hair, and those granules are likely to be eumelanin.
White hairs contain no melanin at all: their whiteness is an optical effect, due to the way in which they reflect the light.
Make-Up Changes and Grey Hair
Silver or grey hair is an excellent backdrop for a complete make-over in the make-up department. Since grey hair can make you look washed out, using warmer tones in your makeup will make you look and feel brighter!
Charlotte Tilbury Luxury Eyeshadow Palette
This is the perfect time to have fun in some of the major department stores. Also, remember that in this instance, less isn’t always more. You can afford to be a little heavier handed when you have grey hair but please, do not forget to use blusher-without-sparkle – you want to look brighter, not like a Christmas Tree.
In Grey Hair & You I have included an entire chapter on Makeup Tips For Looking Great With Grey Hair. I’ve also added a chapter with Tips for Colouring Grey Eyebrows, which isn’t as easy as it sounds.
Read more: Greying and Thinning Eyebrows Got You Down? Here Are Some Useful Tips! (Video).
Steel Grey
A colour always deserving of special mention, steel grey is often reminiscent of scaffolding! Loved or loathed, trying to colour any hair that is predominantly non-pigmented usually results in a flat-looking colour.
Since grey hair is technically hair that has no pigmentation, a natural look calls for some variation in the shades – as it does with any hair colour. This can be achieved by using translucent dyes which leave the hair’s true colour variations visible under the added shades.
If you actually want steel grey hair, you can achieve it with foils – small, random strands throughout the hair – and a dye which will provide you with steel grey. Your best bet is to consult a professional colourist who can recommend the right colour application.
Instant Santa-White Hair
Snow-white hair is almost impossible to achieve unless you’re prepared for some torture. Really, it’s best to wait and hope your genes do the right thing.
In reality, you can’t make the snowy white colour of Santa’s hair because he is 100% grey. His hair lacks any pigmentation whatsoever and is therefore slightly translucent.
To get somewhat similar results, you may be able to lighten your hair to the lightest possible hue, and then tint it using a platinum blonde tint. Also, you will have to use a toner (which is purple but doesn’t look purple).
Read more: How to Highlight and Enhance Your Grey Hair (A Celebrity Stylist Video Interview).
However, the operative word here is may: the effect you accomplish largely depends on the colour of your natural hair. So, you should definitely see a colourist!
Grey Hair and Texture Changes
As hair turns grey, many women notice changes in texture – it may become coarser, curlier, or finer. This shift happens because your scalp produces less oil with age, and hair follicles can change shape, affecting how your hair grows and feels.
To manage these changes, hydration is essential. Use moisturizing shampoos and conditioners with ingredients like argan oil or shea butter. Lightweight mousses, curl creams, and smoothing balms can help define texture and tame frizz without weighing hair down.
When it comes to tools, switch to a wide-tooth comb for gentle detangling, and try a boar bristle brush to distribute natural oils. A microfiber towel or cotton T-shirt is also gentler than a regular towel and helps reduce breakage.
Working with your hair’s new texture can make styling easier – and bring out the beauty of your grey.
Purple Shampoo: What It Is and Why It Helps
If you’ve noticed your grey or white hair looking a little yellow or dull, you’re not alone – and purple shampoo might be the fix you didn’t know you needed.
Why does grey hair turn yellow?
A few reasons: sun exposure, heat styling, minerals in your water, and even pollution can all lead to brassy or yellow tones in hair that’s naturally white, silver, or grey. This is where purple shampoo comes in.
How it works
Purple is opposite yellow on the color wheel. When you apply purple shampoo to your hair, the violet pigments help cancel out those warm, brassy tones, leaving hair looking brighter, cooler, and more silver. It doesn’t dye your hair purple – when used correctly, it simply tones it.
How often should you use it?
Once or twice a week is usually enough. More than that, and your hair can start to feel dry or look dull. If you’re just starting out, try it once a week and adjust based on how your hair reacts.
Toning vs. drying
While purple shampoo is a great tool for brightening up grey or white strands, some formulas can be drying – especially if your hair is already coarse or fragile. Follow up with a rich conditioner or hair mask to keep hair soft and manageable. And if you notice your hair feeling stiff or looking purple-tinged, cut back to once every two weeks.
Try these well-loved options:
Clairol Shimmer Lights – A longtime favorite, especially for brightening white or silver tones.
L’Oréal Paris EverPure Purple Shampoo – Sulfate-free and gentle, this one is a good option for dry or color-treated hair.
Purple shampoo can be a game changer when it comes to maintaining the look of healthy, luminous grey hair – just a little goes a long way.
Read more:9 Best Purple Shampoos for Grey and Silver Hair.
Editor’s Note: Article updated by Sixty and Me.
Let’s Have a Conversation:
Does grey hair make you feel invisible? Have you changed your makeup to go with your grey hair? Do you see grey hair as an opportunity to re-style and re-invent your look and even, to some extent, your persona? Please join the conversation!
